Positive Body Image Postpartum

I have a love/hate relationship with social media. On one hand, it is great for creating community, finding information, etc. On the other hand, it is a big comparison trap. "Keeping up with the Joneses" on steroids.

Especially if you just had a baby.

Can we please normalize postpartum bodies? Please?

I will say, women are braving themselves and showing the world on social media what a postpartum body looks like. Which is wonderful when you have no idea what to expect after having a baby (raises hand). However, these messages can be awfully discouraging when your body does not look anywhere close to theirs. Whichever category you may find yourself in, please know that you are not alone. Your body is a GOOD body and has done the most incredible job in the world. You grew a human!

Unfortunately, the work of social media does not play the sole responsibility in the comparison game. There are a number of other cues that may cause you to feel bad about your body. Alissa Rumsey, MS, RD describes body image as "a person's perception of their body, as well as the beliefs they hold that inform that perception, and the thoughts and feelings that they have about that perception," in her book, Unapologetic Eating. Triggers such as certain situations, people, or experiences can cause you to feel bad about your body. I often hear from clients that these triggers feel heightened postpartum as women tend to mourn the loss of their pre-pregnancy bodies in the postpartum fog. Though for some, having a baby can empower them and they find they love their bodies even more. Either way, looking at an old photo of yourself, a number on the scale, comparing themselves to certain people, trying to fit into pre-maternity clothes or wearing a bathing suit, can all trigger emotions.

Postpartum bodies are constantly changing. Some say, at least two years if not longer. The reality is that bodies, whether postpartum or not, are always changing, especially for women.

When you are having a bad body image day, it can be helpful to practice self-compassion. It is important to acknowledge and validate your feelings. Instead of picking apart certain aspects or features that you are unhappy with. By acknowledging "I am having a bad body image day," and following this up with naming a few things that you love or appreciate about your body, can allow you to move on with your day without letting your thoughts dictate how you care for yourself.

As always, please note this is not medical advice and intended for informational purposes only. I am a registered dietitian, but I am not your registered dietitian. Talk to a healthcare professional that you trust if you need more help.